Archive for February, 2008

A Poem of Compassion: A New World

Monday, February 25th, 2008

by Carole L. Billingham, MCC

A new world is being born
A world of love, peace
And compassion
A world where women are
Loved and honored
For the divine
Beings that they

A new world is being born
Where compassion and
Cooperation is the
Norm. Where people
Work together for
The greater good
Of all.

A new world is being born
Where children’s connection
With the Mother is
Celebrated and where
Children are honored
For the wise and
Spiritually connected
Beings that they are.

I am here to be a
Mid wife to this birth.
To celebrate, cheer and
Facilitate the emergence
Of this incredible and
Amazing world to be.

As I do so, I
Trust that I have
All that I need
And that all that is
Required is that
I remain connected.

Connected to my heart,
My soul and my Goddess.
She knows what
To do. All I
Have to do is

And so it is.


Copyright 2005 Carole L. Billingham, MCC
The Wisdomcoach

Fame and Fortune

Thursday, February 14th, 2008

 Fame and Fortune
by Carole L. Billingham, MCC

I have been attracting a lot of information lately about the pitfalls of fame and fortune.  Maybe it’s because I have been writing a book and questioning just how many people I want it to reach and what that might do to my precious balanced lifestyle.  Or maybe it’s because I’m coaching clients who want to or already have created a life of fame and fortune.  Regardless, it’s got my attention and has helped me get clear on a couple of things.  First of all, just because someone is successful or famous does not mean they have it totally together.  Actually, often it’s the opposite.  Secondly, fame has its price.  Thirdly, once you’ve become famous, there is no turning back. And lastly, fame can be disappointing when you find that you are still the same person you were before you became famous, but now your faults are hanging out for everyone to see.

So what does this all have to do with you?  It has to do with being Real, being Authentic and recognizing that you are amazing just as you are and that you don’t need to be on Oprah to know it.  It’s about celebrating the unique being that is you and has nothing to do with your accomplishments, your bank account or who you know.

I used to think that the more important and successful a person was, the more valuable they were to me, to our society, and to our world.  I now realize that being valued is our birthright and comes from our ability to make a connection to ourselves and others and has nothing to do with outer success or accomplishments.  All one has to do is look at the media darlings of the moment to see that fame does not always equal value or contribution (please don’t get me started).

Thankfully, I was nudged off the treadmill and out of the rat race years ago thanks to a brain injury.  And as I get ready to devote some new energy and life to my career after 5 years of focusing on my family I find myself asking “what price am I willing to pay to succeed in fulfilling my intention of touching millions of people in deep and meaningful ways?”  The simple answer that I receive each and every time is “take it one step at a time, be true to yourself and trust Me (God).”

I know that as with everything else, there is a force much greater than me at work here.  As I learn to let go and let God, I know that what I need to know will be revealed to me at the precise moment that I am ready to hear it and not one second earlier. (I can only hope that I will keep my heart open so that I can hear it the first time).

I also know that as I stay conscious and true to myself that I will be able to manifest all of my heart’s desires without the need to give up my commitment to living a balanced life.  And if I can’t, then I’ll simply amend my goals to stay true to myself, my soul, my values and my family.  Either way I win.

©2006 Carole L. Billingham, MCC

The Gift of Receiving

Friday, February 8th, 2008

The Gift of Receiving
By Carole L. Billingham, MCC

We talk a lot these days about the importance of balance. I have found that a key element to creating and obtaining balance is learning how to receive. Most of us have the giving part down-pat. It’s the receiving part where we may need some help.I learned about the gift of receiving while on my healing path back from a brain injury. I learned very quickly that if my health (and sanity) were to improve, I’d have to let others help me. Now this wasn’t easy for a recovering super-achiever, but I intuitively knew that it was time, not to mention that the alternative was not very attractive.

The first thing that I noticed was that in order to truly let people help me, I had to let my guard down and admit that I wasn’t Superwoman. This meant opening myself up to being vulnerable. Having a brain injury helped, since one of the side effects of such an injury is an immense feeling of vulnerability. Still, I had invested a lot into my Superwoman identity, and I had never considered vulnerability an attribute of a Super Hero.

The second thing that I noticed was that in order to receive I had to stop acting like a “human doing” and become a “human being”. In other words, there’s not much space for receiving if all of your energy is going outward. This meant that I had to slow down. Another difficult feat for a recovering A-type personality.

Things started to shift rather quickly as I stepped more and more into my new way of being. I started to feel more and more connected. Connected to both my authentic self and to others. I also started to feel less stressed about “making things happen” and more focused on “allowing” things to happen. I was learning to take things one day at time and to trust that things would (as they always do) fall into place perfectly. There was a new sense of faith and trust within in me that knew that I no longer needed to try so hard all the time. This faith and trust brought an incredible sense of inner peace. What a gift!

The more I learned, the more I found myself teaching. I remember sharing an important insight with a dear friend facing a life-threatening illness. She was struggling with the fact that her identity had always been rooted in her caretaker role. Now it was her turn to receive, and it was extremely difficult for her to do so. I asked her how she felt when she was helping someone. She predictably replied that it made her feel wonderful. I lovingly reminded her that by allowing others to help her, she’d be offering them the gift of giving. She got it. And I am happy to say that as she learned to receive, her health improved greatly.

In order for the circle of love to be complete, it must be given and received. In letting our guard down and opening our hearts, we can be blessed with a true sense of love and connection. After all, isn’t that what we are all looking for?

Here are some questions for you to ponder:

  • Where are you not allowing love (or anything else for that matter) to flow back to you?
  • What’s it costing you in not doing so?
  • When’s the last time that you allowed yourself to feel vulnerable?
  • How could you start to ask more often for what you need- -physically, mentally, & spiritually?
  • Are you willing to stop acting like a human “doing” and start becoming a human “being”?
  • What could you do today to allow the flow of love and energy to come back to you?

©2005 Carole L. Billingham, MCC