Archive for January, 2008

When My Human-ness Gets In The Way

Monday, January 21st, 2008

When My Human-ness Gets In The Way
By Carole L. Billingham, MCC
Have you ever noticed that when things start to get out of hand most of us simply try harder? Have you noticed that rarely does the extra effort really get us anywhere? In truth, the harder we try, the more out of control things get and the more frustrated we become.

I just spent the last ten weeks struggling to overcome an acute case of Morning Sickness (that’s right, I’m pregnant!). Why they call it Morning Sickness is beyond me since most of us lucky gals experience symptoms at any or all hours of the day.

I tell you, I tried absolutely everything from seasickness wrist bands to castor oil packs to peppermint tea. Nothing worked. The harder I tried to find a remedy, the more frustrated I became in knowing that it wasn’t working. Believe me, I was not willing to give up. I just knew that there had to be something that would work. Something, that I had simply not tried yet.

Sure, I kept reminding myself that most women experience relief in their second trimester, but that wasn’t good enough for me. After all, that was a long ways off. (Close to 8 weeks, 56 days, or 1344 hours to be exact…..but who’s counting?!). I am a Super-Achiever that knows that if I try hard enough, I can solve ANY problem that comes my way! This would be no exception.

As the days (and hours) passed, I had lots of time to spend thinking about my dilemma. I finally calmed down a bit and started to tap into the wiser part of me…the part that I like to call “My Higher Self”. The part of me that already has all of the answers, if I can just quiet myself down long enough to listen (not always an easy task).

I asked My Higher Self, “What am I missing here?” “This shouldn’t be so darn difficult.”

The answer came immediately. “Perhaps the present situation is exactly as it should be. Perhaps it is for your (and your baby’s) highest good for you to experience this discomfort. Just trust in this and stop fighting it. Soon you’ll find peace and comfort.”

I decided at that present moment that I had two choices: I could continue to struggle and to focus on my discomfort, remembering that what I focus on expands. Or I could let it go and trust that God and My Higher Self Know what is best. I chose the latter.

In the weeks that have passed, I have decided that God knew me well enough to know that I needed to experience a certain level of discomfort before I’d really slow down and get the rest that me and my baby needed. That perhaps, ultimately my baby’s health (and maybe even life) depended on it. I realize that I may never know why I needed to experience those ten weeks in bed, but I do know that it brings me comfort to trust that everything that happens in my life is for the best…even if it is beyond my present understanding. It really comes down to a simple choice: focusing on the limits of my human-ness or centering on my ability to remember the limitlessness of my Spirit. I think that I’ll choose the latter.

By the way, I’m out of bed and feeling great! Just 24 more weeks to go!

Is there an area in your life where you are struggling with your human-ness? Are you willing to lighten up, let it go, and allow your Spirit show you a different way? All you really have to do is ask… and listen quietly. ©2004 Carole L. Billingham, MCC

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Thursday, January 10th, 2008

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Join Wise Women Circle – The Dates Are Set

Tuesday, January 8th, 2008

The Dates are Set! Sign up NOW for the 2008 Wise Women Circle Group!

Dates are: January 23 & 30, February 6, 13 & 20, March 5, 12 & 19.

So, gather a friend or two and let’s see what we can do! Click here to Register and learn more about this group

The Wise Women Circle Group meets three times a month for 55 minutes. As a participant in the group, you will receive the support of me, as your coach, to guide you along your journey forward as well as the support, interaction, feedback, and encouragement from women in the group. Each month we cover specific areas of living and you will receive personalized attention and direction for you to upgrade your life.

Click here to Register and learn more about the group

Is Coaching For You?

Friday, January 4th, 2008

Is coaching for you?

If you are . . .  

    An Entrepreneur or Creative professional who longs to turn your ideas into profits,

    A Small Business Owner who desires more time for the things that are important to you or have fun in your business again,

    A Professional who is looking for more satisfaction in your chosen profession or are thinking about making a career change,

    A Sales Professional who dreams of effortlessly increasing sales by selling from a place of attraction,

    A New Coach who is ready to springboard to a thriving coaching practice,

    A Professional Single who is hoping to attract your ideal mate,

    A Spiritual Person who wants to simplify and design a life that is rich in love, peace, happiness, and fulfillment…

    Then, you are the kind of person that I love to work with!

    I’ve made space for two (2) new clients in my practice for this year. I’d love for one of them to be you.