Archive for December, 2007

Six Powerful Questions to Ask for the New Year

Saturday, December 29th, 2007

6 Powerful Questions to Ask for the New Year1) What are you most proud of accomplishing (both internally and externally) this past year? How can you acknowledge yourself for your accomplishments?

2) What would you like to experience more of in 2008?

3) What would you like to experience less of in 2008?

4) What are you going to do or not do differently so that you are open to receive the abundant gifts that the Universe has to offer? (Remember, Mark Twain’s definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again but expecting different results.)

5 If you were to allow yourself to be fully loved and supported (both personally and professionally) what might happen? What would that support look and feel like?

6) What important question do you wish I had asked?

2006 Carole L. Billingham, MCC

Ten Terrific Ways to Be Cynical This Holiday Season

Friday, December 21st, 2007

Last week I showed you the Top Ten Ways to Have a Peaceful Holiday Season. But what if, like many, you sometimes get a little cranky during the holidays? Here are 10 terrific ways to be cynical this Holiday Season.

 Ten Terrific Ways to Become Cynical this Holiday Season

  1. Have unrealistic expectations for yourself, your family and the holidays themselves.  Make sure to look around and notice how the media helps you to do this.
  1. Let overwhelm consume you, make you ill and shut you down.
  1. Do too much and like the Eveready Bunny, just keep going.  Make sure to keep a pleasant smile on your face.
  1. Do it all yourself.  Don’t ask for help (why bother, you won’t get it anyway).
  1. Lose yourself and your focus as often as possible.  (Perhaps it wasn’t there to begin with?)
  1. Give up your quality time with yourself and with your family.  Throw all thoughts of Self Care out the window and if possible, become a martyr.
  1. Do things you don’t want to do and whine about it.  (Actually, if you want to be cynical this time next year don’t do this since doing so might get you off some party invitation lists.)
  1. Forget your sense of humor, dig in your heels and get on with things.  Keep your chin up, before you know it it’ll be January and your credit card bills will be coming in.  That’ll give you something to laugh about!
  1. Spend lots of money you don’t have on things people don’t need.  Remember your sense of obligation to everyone except yourself.  That’s what the holidays are all about.
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*This space is for you to fill in with your own unique and well practiced techniques for becoming disillusioned and cynical.  I bet you have one (or two)!

©2006 Carole L. Billingham, MCC


Join Carole’s Wise Women Coaching Circle

Thursday, December 13th, 2007

 New Classes Forming Now for 2008!

 “I am so glad to have participated in the group. It has been a great support for me and a source
of empowerment, clarity, and connection to the wise woman within!”
— S. Mariner

I’ve been feeling inspired lately to gather women and to create a Women’s Coaching Circle. Would you like to join me? 

For eons, women have come together in circles to laugh, learn and create. In our quest for success and survival, it has become easier than ever before to feel isolated and disconnected from ourselves, from others and from our world.  It is my deepest longing to be a catalyst in bringing women together in friendship, in healing, and in growth. 

On my own journey I have experienced the desperation of feeling alone and not fitting in to a world with values that seem different from my own. To the other extreme I have experienced a sense of joy that comes with the understanding that I am not alone on my path and that there are many others like me, wanting to create a life of purpose, of joy, and of connection.

For 11 years I have been blessed with the opportunity to create sacred space with hundreds of clients wanting more in their lives.  Up until now, I have always done my coaching one on one. 

I am now ready to step into the unknown and hold the space for the circle to be wider by creating a small and intimate coaching group.  I would be honored to know that you would like to join me. 

What:  A Women’s Coaching Circle

Who:  Seven fun-loving women who crave connection, inspiration, and the freedom to live a life they love

Why:  Because you know in your heart that it is time for women to gather together with the intention to reclaim our power, passion and purpose, and experience the zest for a life we deserve. Together we can have fun, enjoy new friendships, and giggle our way to the life we came here to live.

How: We will gather together from all over the world via a weekly 55 minute telephone gathering. You will connect with other women desiring more balance, self- care, and need for acknowledgment in their lives.  Together we will connect and find our wisdom, our voice and our truth.

We will talk about setting healthy boundaries, learning to say no, raising our standards, and asking for what we want.  We will discuss the obstacles that often trip us up and how to lovingly move through them. Most importantly, the agenda for our time together will be created by the group itself as we explore our heart’s deepest desires and tap into the wisdom of the women within our circle. 

As we come together we create unity, strength and the understanding that we are all in this together. 

If you are ready to join our journey, please email me at for more details.

Speaker, Author and Spiritual and Business Coach, Carole L. Billingham, MCC Inspires high achievers to create a life of balance, passion and purpose and invites you to be among them!


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Top Ten Ways to Create a Peaceful & Purposeful Holiday Season

Wednesday, December 12th, 2007

Carole’s Top Ten Ways
 To Create a Peaceful &
Purposeful Holiday Season
By Carole L. Billingham, MCC

 Webster’s Dictionary offers several definitions of the word “holiday”: 

1.     Holy Day

2.     A day on which one is exempt from work

3.     A period of relaxation

Here is a Top Ten List that I hope will help you to have a restful and happy holiday that reflects the true meaning of this joyous season.


1.     Recall What You Learned Last Year.

Unless you do things differently, your results won’t be different.

2.     Make Your List and Check it Twice.

Take the time (today) to make your lists and start planning time in your schedule for the things that need to be done.  Make sure to leave some time for yourself.

3.     Keep it Simple.

Remember that the true meaning of the holidays is to be among the people that you love. 

4.     Stay Out of The Malls.

Do your holiday shopping on-line or through catalogs.  You can even have your gifts gift-wrapped and mailed for you- – one less thing for you to have to do!

5.     Ask For Help.

If entertaining, ask your guests to bring a dish to share.  Get your family to help with the shopping, wrapping, etc.  Hire a cleaning service, a handy-man.  You get the idea.

6.     Implement a Budget.

There’s no sense in starting the New Year off with a chunk of debt.  (See #1, 3, and 4)

7.     Try Something Different.

Why not start a new holiday tradition like adopting a family in need, making donations to charities in lieu of gifts, or helping out at a local food bank?

8.     When Feeling Stressed, Breathe.

If you find the holiday activities getting the best of you, take a deep breath and pull yourself into a place of gratitude.  After all, isn’t that what the holidays are all about?

9.     Just Say No.

If there is something that you are not feeling up to doing, don’t do it.  Remember, soon you will have a whole new year awaiting you—perhaps there are some things that can wait.

10. Set Your Intention.

What kind of holiday experience you have is entirely up to you.  Get clear about your intentions, embrace your ability to make choices, and create the best holiday season ever!

©1996, 2002 Carole L. Billingham, MCC
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What is a Coach?

Tuesday, December 11th, 2007

What Is a Coach?

I once heard someone say that hiring a coach is like hiring a personal trainer for your soul. I love that! For years athletes and artists have been using coaches to help them improve their performances and build their careers. The unexpected benefit many of these professionals discovered while working with a Coach was exponential personal growth and satisfaction. Their Coach turned out to be much more than they expected…they had their own personal trainer for their soul! You may be wondering how a coach can make a difference in your life. Let’s talk about coaching…In defining what a coach is, here are a couple of distinctions that might be helpful to you.

Coach vs. Therapist: A coach encourages and guides you to embrace your values and strengths to help you create a better future, while a therapist helps heal the the past to be happy in the present. Where therapy is process-oriented, coaching is dynamic and action-oriented. Coach vs. Consultant: A coach supports you in reaching both your personal and professional goals, while a consultant helps you achieve your professional goals. Achieving your professional goals alone is not enough. What I want for you is to HAVE IT ALL — a personal life that is equally rewarding to your professional life!Deserving a Coach vs. Needing a Coach: Partnering with a coach will allow you to get from A to B more quickly, more effectively, and with fewer obstacles. You don’t need a coach to tell you how to get from point A to point B — you already know how. It’s about loving yourself enough to know that you deserve to have a coach in your life.

Contact me to see how I can help you make the changes you need to succeed!