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Reading for Inspiration & Affirming Our Inner Knowing

Tuesday, April 21st, 2009

I’ve decided that instead of reading for information, that I’d rather read for inspiration. You see, I am an addict. I’m addicted to buying books, reading books, recommending books and surrounding myself with books.  Heck, I’m even writing a book!

Like most addicts, my addiction started from a sense of lack in my life and a belief that experts and authors had access to information that I didn’t. If I wasn’t reading a self-help book, I was attending workshops and seminars in hopes of “getting some of that stuff” the experts had, and at some extent hoping that some of that “stuff” could help me change my life. I suppose you could say that I was always searching for something magical outside of myself; something to make me happy, make me feel worthy and to help me feel a sense of inner peace.

Fast forward about ten years and I can honestly say that although my love affair for books remains, it looks very different than it did back then.  For one thing, I now give myself permission to read books other than nonfiction.  The old “I need fixing” had me convinced that I could not waste precious time reading something frivolous like Emily Dickenson for fear of missing something important.  If there wasn’t a purpose in my reading, I said forget it.  I can still hear those old voices in my head saying, “Life’s too short, can’t you see I’m in a race here? Wasting time is not an option!”  Thank goodness I matured and embraced my wisdom to know that if reading a fiction story makes me feel good, then that’s good enough for me!

If “all the answers to life’s questions reside within you,”  then I no longer need to focus on things outside of myself to make me feel better. I only need to look within.  What that means for me is reading for inspiration rather than for information. Right or wrong, I find reading nonfiction these days leaves me feeling either overwhelmed (“Oh my, here are 101 new ways to do such and such that I need to try out”), frustrated (“Geez!  I already knew that!), or just simply tired (“Okay, I’m sleepy here, I’ve read this sentence 4 times and I still don’t get it!).

As I give myself permission to enjoy new and brilliant works of fiction, I anticipate the new worlds I will see, the new people I will meet and the fresh experiences I will have through the characters and plots that await me. And in the end, I will come full circle back home.  Home to the Wise Woman who lives within me who knows that I am perfect just the way I am!

Have an Inspirational month!

Carole L. Billingham, MCC, Spiritual & Business Coach
“Inspiring Spirited Businesspeople to live with Power, Passion and Purpose!”
303-403-4003 office  •  970-577-0201 fax  •

Pancakes for Dinner

Monday, March 30th, 2009

When I have had a full day and have pushed myself a bit too hard, I love to eat pancakes for dinner.  Swedish Pancakes that is… smothered in butter and pure maple syrup and downed with a cool glass of milk.  Swedish pancakes are easy to make, full of protein and delicious to eat.  Most importantly, they leave me feeling satisfied and well taken care of.  Maybe it’s memories of my childhood, or maybe it’s the little girl inside of me enjoying something sweet, but those pancakes have the power to make me feel good both inside and out.

Afterwards, I’ll head to the family room (or the bedroom if I’m really feeling decadent) and cozy up with my daughter under a warm blanket and watch a movie or perhaps an old episode of the Gilmore Girls.  Before I know it, I am back in synch with my soul and feeling good again.

What can you do this month to get in sync with your soul and to feel good both inside and out?  What activities nourish and feed you?

Perhaps you’ve noticed that often it’s the simple pleasures in life that bring us the most joy.  How about squeezing in just a few more of those simple pleasures this month?  You deserve it!

Clear the Decks

Tuesday, February 24th, 2009

“Clear the Decks” Those three words keep coming to me, both from my head and from my soul.  A couple of weeks ago I hit a wall, or rather it hit me.  I had been putting an enormous amount of energy forth to start new projects, take care of lots of people and to (not so) simply live my rich and full life.  What I hadn’t noticed, was that I had depleted my reserves of energy and had long since past the point of running on fumes.

Before my head injury I could get away with running on empty in short spurts without any big consequences.  I can no longer do that.  It’s not really a bad thing, it just means that I need to stay as conscious as possible and pay close attention to how I am feeling.  Most importantly, I need to recognize quickly when it is time for me to pull back and increase the time I spend on Self Care.

Years ago, as I was being put into the ambulance at the scene of my auto accident, I heard Spirit’s calm and loving voice tell me “this experience will teach you how to receive”.  For most of us, receiving isn’t the easiest of tasks.  We have the giving part down pat. It is in the learning to receive that we truly start to experience a life of balance.  Self Care is one of the most basic forms of receiving and in turn, restoring balance to our body, mind and spirit.

Unfortunately we cannot be open to receiving if our life is too full.  Whether it’s setting good boundaries, saying “no” or eliminating “tolerations” that are draining you, clearing the decks can be an invigorating and freeing process.  In doing so, you can once again reclaim the helm of your life and create the space for what you want to attract in your life (this is the 3rd Principle of Attraction in my audio The 10 Principles of Attraction).  In reclaiming your space and consciousness you can declare that you get to decide what you want to do and not do in order to be true to yourself.  And instead of pushing or trying to make things happen, you can settle softly back into your knowingness that  “allowing things to unfold” is a much wiser and satisfying way of life.

Before you rush to fill in the extra space you have now created (isn’t funny how quickly the urge to do that can take over if we’re not paying attention?), take some time to enjoy the new room in your life and the limitless possibilities that space now holds.

Take some time to do things that nurture you.  Read, listen to music, get out your art supplies and embrace the gratitude that you feel in knowing that your life belongs to you.  Give thanks for your freedom and pay homage to that little voice that reminded you that it was time to take care of You..time once again to dance with your Soul.

What is your inner voice trying to tell you?  What might happen if you listened to and honored that voice?

Craving Connection

Thursday, January 29th, 2009

A couple of weeks ago I gave a keynote presentation at a conference for women in social media. My primary intent was to explore the power of connection, especially the importance of our inner connection to Self, Spirit and in turn, others.

At our core, we all crave connection. What many folks don’t realize is that the purest of connections can only come from within. We erroneously turn our efforts outwardly in hopes that something outside of ourselves will satisfy our inner most cravings. Whether our drug of choice is food, work, sex or technology, we eventually learn that our real craving is to connect with our soul.

I know that my life purpose is to guide women in their search for connection, passion and joy in their lives. In this coming year, I want to make a deep and wide impact in the lives of women. I want to hold the space for women to reclaim their connection: to their Souls, to Spirit and to each other.

I know in my heart that this is going to look different from the things I have done in the past. Not because of a need to do something different, but because I am different.

I have always known that my recovery from perfectionism, work-alcoholism, and most importantly, brain injury was not for me alone. I could clearly see that the issues that challenged me, were issues that plagued many women and that as I found my way back home to inner peace, I would be blessed with the opportunity to be a bridge for others do the same.

Are you a woman who craves a deeper connection? Would you like to meet and get to know your Inner Wise Woman? Would you like to connect with other women who like you, crave more joy, passion and purpose in their lives?

If so, here is a chance to fulfill that intention.

This month, I will be hosting a (face to face) women’s coaching circle in Boulder Colorado. I have several terrific women already registered and have space for 2-3 more. I expect these slots to fill quickly, so if being a part of a women’s circle has been on your wish list, this is your chance to make it happen! If you’d like to come play, we’d sure like you to join us. (Click here to contact me for more information on the circle.)

In this coming month, I invite you to cultivate lots of love. Although Valentine’s Day comes but once a year, you can make every day a day of romance and connection. In truth, every day can be a celebration of the love that is available to you in each and every moment, simply by going within.

With much love and appreciation,


P.S. For those of you interested in exploring your inner connection, but who don’t live in the Denver/Boulder area, fear not. I will be hosting a telegathering in the next month or two. If you have a particular topic you would like to explore or would like to reserve your space in advance, click here to contact me and let me know. I am always interested in knowing what is of interest to you.

The Wisdom Coach Says: Who Do You Want to Be in 2009?

Tuesday, December 23rd, 2008

Great change is in the air. It’s not hard to see that there is something big brewing. Soon we will be gifted with a new year and a new president. Hope abounds.

I personally feel a change coming on as well. As I start public speaking again*, I have a sense that how I show up and what I have to offer is going to look different than it did a year ago. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but I am certain that it’s going to be a fun and fulfilling ride.

In past years, I often focused my first newsletter of the year on evaluating the accomplishments of the previous year and then I’d offer some questions to ponder to help you create goals for the year to come. Today, I feel inspired to take you in a different direction.

Instead of asking you what you want to do in the new year my question to you is “who do you want to Be in 2009?”

Our culture has become obsessed with material success (and look where it has gotten us). In doing so, we’ve completely missed the point of what really matters. With the melt down of so many of our institutions we’ve been granted an opportunity to take a quick course on what really counts.

Lately I have been talking a lot about an insight that I had months ago that knocked me off my chair. What if your “life purpose” is simply to be joyful? Imagine the freedom you’d feel in knowing that the pressure is off and your “job” is simply to be happy?! What an amazing idea! In other words, what if reaching your potential had little to do with what you “do” and everything to do with Who You Are?

By focusing your efforts on being joyous (which I believe is your natural state anyway) you’d indeed achieve great things, but without so much of the suffering you’ve become accustomed to. Actions would be inspired from your heart rather than motivated by guilt or fear. Ironically, the outcome in turn, would be more joy.

So thinking about the fresh slate before you – who would you like to BE in 2009? My personal theme for the New Year is “Joyful all the Time in 2009” (what can I say…I like things that rhyme. Last year’s theme was “Meditate in 2008”).

I dare you to throw out your endless lists and goals and to pick an attribute or two that you’d like to “embody” in the next 12 months. Now, imagine what you and your life will look and feel like as you embrace and become that attribute. Feel the power of consciously choosing who you are, how you show up in the world and in turn offering the gift that is YOU (and what an amazing gift you are!).

Please take a moment and tell me who you want to Be in 2009. I promise to hold the space for you to fulfill that intention. I have a hunch that 2009 could be your best year ever!

Have an empowering month!


* I invite you to join me at the Chicks Who Click Conference in Boulder, Colorado on January 10th where I will be the keynote speaker.

The WisdomCoach Says: The World Needs Your Energy & Compassion

Sunday, September 28th, 2008

It’s been an interesting couple of weeks. It seems that at every turn there is bad news announced about our financial or housing markets, our unstable economy. or news that another big corporation is closing its doors, being bailed out or gobbled up by another big corporation (often a foreign one). Add to that an emotionally charged presidential campaign and we’ve got one big excuse to feel disconnected from well being and inner peace.


What strikes me most in all of this frenzy is what appears to be a lack of “heart.” Our world is so focused on fear, that it’s easy to lose sight of our inner connection to Spirit. It’s also easy to not pay attention and to find that we too have jumped on the bandwagon of chaos and craziness.


I would like to make a heartfelt request to each of you.  As things continue to unfold in the world around you, I would ask that you make a conscious effort to stay connected to your heart and to joy. What the world needs now is people radiating love and peace. Say a prayer, go to your center and feel the love that is there for you. Ask Spirit to remind you to bring forth that love into your life and trust that there is nothing more powerful that you can do than to radiate love for yourself and for mankind.


A great teacher once told me, “there is no law of assertion, there is only the law of attraction.” What you focus on expands. Do your best to focus on what you desire, not what you don’t.


The world needs your loving energy and compassion.  Go inside, claim it, and bring it forth! 


Have an empowering week,



The WisdomCoach says: Honor Your Limitations

Sunday, May 4th, 2008


Honoring Your Limitations
By Carole L. Billingham, MCC 

Do you know, and honor, your personal limitations? Or do you wait until you’ve smacked head first into them before you slow down and back off? 

I’ve been pushing myself a lot lately. A few months ago I decided to work on launching a new business that I already knew would demand a great deal of time and energy from me. I knew that it would take extra effort on my part to prioritize, organize and keep my focus as I learned new skills while honoring my commitment to living a balanced and fulfilling life. 

From the inside looking out, it’s been a bumpy ride. Every time I get one task accomplished, five more items instantly appear on my to-do list. Instead of focusing on what is getting done, I’m busy stressing about what isn’t. I find myself up against the relentless and cruel taskmaster within who is never satisfied with my progress or accomplishments. Even my dreams, lately, are filled with chaos and confusion making it clear that it’s time for something to change. 

Before my head injury, my solution to challenges was to simply try harder. Amazingly, that usually seemed to do the trick, until I exhausted all my reserves of energy and ended up with a sinus infection, bronchitis or some other ailment. I guess, in truth, trying harder was a short term fix to a deeper problem that was rooted in being an unrealistic perfectionist. 

Fast forward many years and a head injury later, whether I like it or not, my inner perfectionist is still alive and pushing. To make matters worse, if I haven’t taken the time to pay attention to my inner guidance and slow down, she takes over and runs my life in ways that clearly don’t serve me. It’s not until I wake up with a nasty headache or sore throat, that I realize that I missed the signs. 

Did I mention that my inner perfectionist has unobtainable standards and lacks a sense of humor?  She rationalizes that having high standards is a good thing and conveniently forgets to mention that unobtainable standards are really more about her insecurities than they are about the standards themselves. 

And, her sense of humor? Forget about it. When there’s so much work to be done there’s no time to waste by laughing or being light. That’s simply a waste of one’s resources. 

As I visualize my inner perfectionist, I see her with a whip in her hands yelling wildly, “Keep going!”  As I stop to look into her eyes, I see that she’s afraid. Afraid of life. Afraid of people. Afraid to stop. 

As I continue to make eye contact, I open my heart and send her love. I allow her to recognize that I truly see her and that I love her. A tear wells up in her eyes. I reach for her and see that she’s frightened and unsure of whether to let me in. I let her know that I can be trusted and that I do not judge her. Quite the contrary, I love and acknowledge her for letting me in and having the courage to allow me to connect with her. I reach out and hold her in my arms. I feel the stiffness in her body soften as we connect. I feel her fears and her fierceness melt away as she relinquishes her resistance and lets in my love. 

As I continue to hold her, I realize that she is simply a lost part of me that longs for connection. That like all of us, what she wants most is to be loved and to feel a sense of belonging. By having the courage to be truly seen, she allows herself to be gifted with the understanding that she is worthy. I love her just as she is. She doesn’t need to accomplish anything in order to be loved and valued. Her worth doesn’t need to be earned; it is her birth right. 

She is perfect just as she is. She smiles with understanding as she remembers the truth. As we walk together hand in hand we are grateful. Grateful for our connection, grateful for our friendship, and grateful for the good things to come. 

She whispers into my ear, “Remind others.” And so with a sense of reverence and peace I ask you: is there an inner perfectionist or inner taskmaster crying out for your love and attention? If so, what can you do to make a connection with her/him?  What gifts might await you if you did? 

©2007 Carole L. Billingham, MCC

When My Human-ness Gets In The Way

Monday, January 21st, 2008

When My Human-ness Gets In The Way
By Carole L. Billingham, MCC
Have you ever noticed that when things start to get out of hand most of us simply try harder? Have you noticed that rarely does the extra effort really get us anywhere? In truth, the harder we try, the more out of control things get and the more frustrated we become.

I just spent the last ten weeks struggling to overcome an acute case of Morning Sickness (that’s right, I’m pregnant!). Why they call it Morning Sickness is beyond me since most of us lucky gals experience symptoms at any or all hours of the day.

I tell you, I tried absolutely everything from seasickness wrist bands to castor oil packs to peppermint tea. Nothing worked. The harder I tried to find a remedy, the more frustrated I became in knowing that it wasn’t working. Believe me, I was not willing to give up. I just knew that there had to be something that would work. Something, that I had simply not tried yet.

Sure, I kept reminding myself that most women experience relief in their second trimester, but that wasn’t good enough for me. After all, that was a long ways off. (Close to 8 weeks, 56 days, or 1344 hours to be exact…..but who’s counting?!). I am a Super-Achiever that knows that if I try hard enough, I can solve ANY problem that comes my way! This would be no exception.

As the days (and hours) passed, I had lots of time to spend thinking about my dilemma. I finally calmed down a bit and started to tap into the wiser part of me…the part that I like to call “My Higher Self”. The part of me that already has all of the answers, if I can just quiet myself down long enough to listen (not always an easy task).

I asked My Higher Self, “What am I missing here?” “This shouldn’t be so darn difficult.”

The answer came immediately. “Perhaps the present situation is exactly as it should be. Perhaps it is for your (and your baby’s) highest good for you to experience this discomfort. Just trust in this and stop fighting it. Soon you’ll find peace and comfort.”

I decided at that present moment that I had two choices: I could continue to struggle and to focus on my discomfort, remembering that what I focus on expands. Or I could let it go and trust that God and My Higher Self Know what is best. I chose the latter.

In the weeks that have passed, I have decided that God knew me well enough to know that I needed to experience a certain level of discomfort before I’d really slow down and get the rest that me and my baby needed. That perhaps, ultimately my baby’s health (and maybe even life) depended on it. I realize that I may never know why I needed to experience those ten weeks in bed, but I do know that it brings me comfort to trust that everything that happens in my life is for the best…even if it is beyond my present understanding. It really comes down to a simple choice: focusing on the limits of my human-ness or centering on my ability to remember the limitlessness of my Spirit. I think that I’ll choose the latter.

By the way, I’m out of bed and feeling great! Just 24 more weeks to go!

Is there an area in your life where you are struggling with your human-ness? Are you willing to lighten up, let it go, and allow your Spirit show you a different way? All you really have to do is ask… and listen quietly. ©2004 Carole L. Billingham, MCC

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Thursday, January 10th, 2008

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